Marriage difficulties since baby

So my husband and I just got in another huge fight. He finally agreed we need to go to couples counseling. I think I’m just completely confused by some of the things he said during the fight. I’ve started developing postpartum depression in the past 3 weeks (I’m going to therapy) and I’ve noticed I’ve been pulling away from him and haven’t been acting myself. But honestly I’m pulling away from everyone, not just him. Anyway, part of my issue with him is since the baby has been born he will get easily frustrated and yell or slam/throw things. I’ve put my foot down and told him I won’t keep tolerating it and sometimes when he acts that way I kick him out of the house for a few hours. I think he’s finally realizing it’s not ok but can’t seem to stop. But he said he gets so frustrated so easily because I don’t appreciate him and I don’t consider him as much now and don’t give him as much attention. Like seriously?! What did he think having a baby would be like? I’m exhausted from doing most of the care for her (which he admits I take care of her more than he does), so it’s only natural I have less time and attention to spare him. But that does not excuse his tantrums. And when he acts like that of course I don’t want to be around him.

Can anyone else relate?