Is it me or the disease talking?

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My husband told me I’m the reason why he drinks so much. That I’m stressing him out so much that he has to drink. Yes we have are disagreements & arguments & I struggle with my Borderline personality disorder but I’m trying to get better & I find it unfair he’s blaming me for his drinking even tho he drank a lot before we got together & even when we first got together till now....

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Unless you’re literally pouring alcohol down his throat, you’re not the reason he’s drinking. He’s making the choice to drink. Or making the choice not to get help to stop.

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He’s an alcoholic who is not accepting his reality and wants to place the blame on someone else. You’re just the easiest target.

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Sounds like a typical addict placing blame on everyone else but themselves. He needs to get sober, go to rehab and therapy. But as for any addict - they have to be the ones who want it for themselves. Only they can make the change

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Its definitely the alcoholism. He needs to get help. Definitely work on you and focus on you. Maybe that will help him see he has a problem and he should work on him too.

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Blaming others for their drinking as well as other things is a classic sign of alcoholism/addiction.

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He may not be blaming you. He may be telling you that you are one of his triggers. Both of you all need to seek help. He need AA. And yall need marriage councelor

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Please help with rehab if he has a drinking problem or counseling.while he gets the help he needs you can as well if your coping with your personality disorder. That way you can both work out your own struggles and hopefully save your relationship. He’s going to keep blaming you as long as the drink is in his hand. Alcoholism is a series thing and your never going to get an honest person who drinks. The time is to help him now and if he doesn’t want it then maybe you need to separate for awhile until he gets his stuff together. It’s not healthy  for a drinker to take on any relationship until they fix their issues and break the habit.

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He's an addict and a jerk.

Is it me or the disease talking?

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