Am I overreacting?

Long story but please read.

The last month me and my partner have been having major issues. We took a break and got back together. We cancelled going on a trip together because we split up. When we get back together, he was like oh I decided I’m still going. (There were friends still going) and he said oh I want you there but we don’t have a babysitter.

The vacation was planned for my birthday since it’s in 2 days. And because I’m constantly working and taking care of babies so I’ve been so stressed and needed a break. So im already annoyed that HE is getting the break, when he doesn’t even work right now and he hadn’t had the kids often as we were on a break. So at this point it’s so short notice I can’t get off work and no babysitter. Anyways he leave this last Friday. He gets there and he’s like babe let’s work something out, let’s fly you out here tomorrow.

So I found a baby sitter, I got off work and my check hit so I was booking my flight Saturday morning and I was gonna be in phx by 3! Perfect cause we would be leaving Monday.

So I let him know I’m booking my flight and he’s like well I need to talk to everyone here now and see if it’s ok. I’m like thinking ok whatever there shouldn’t be an issue cause initially I was invited and I’ll pay for half the Airbnb and whatever. He texts me and says everyone thinks you shouldn’t come because I’m leaving tomorrow instead of Monday so it wouldn’t be worth it. I was super bummed out. I was crying. My kids were up my ass screaming and he’s getting ready to go to the club 10 mins after he completely rejected me.

Fast forward to today, when he said he would be home right? Which is why I couldn’t come? He says “I never told you I’d be home today”

So then he starts gaslighting me. “Why do you care” that kind of shit.

I care cause I NEED A BREAK. It’s MY BIRTHDAY. I paid for his share of the airbnb back when we were planning on going together.

I literally feel like I want to leave him. He always claims to be a family man and how he wants me to be his wife. But really? Does he? Cause a man who wants a wife would have made this happen correct? Hey guys, Carissa made it work and she’s coming after all even if it’s for the night she really wants to be here and she will pay her way.

That simple right?

I want a life partner. That I experience with. That I travel with. That wants me. That wants me by his side. That helps me with the kids and understands how I feel and makes it work for the both of us.

Please help. I already have let him know I’m seriously contemplating ending the relationship and he is saying he doesn’t want to do that, but also he says he didn’t do anything wrong. He said I’m overreacting I’m being stupid and I ruined his whole vacation.