What’s wrong with me?

Question

I am 37 weeks pregnant with my second. I love my first daughter so much. It’s unexplainable. I know I’ll love my second as well. I just feel no connection because I love my first so much. I feel like a bad mom. I feel guilty. Am I the only one? I wanted to be pregnant so bad so my daughter could have a sibling and once I found out I was pregnant I got upset because I don’t know if I can share my love.

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I totally felt the same way when I was pregnant with my second daughter. I was terrified because I have such a close bond with my first daughter. My first will always hold a special place for being my first baby but as soon as I laid eyes on my second baby I loved her just the same but different. It’s hard to explain but the connection will come for you too.

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I felt EXACTLY the same and cried & cried over my firstborn all the time, it felt like I was going to lose our special bond. Had extreme ppd and struggled to bond with my second baby for 6 months after his birth. Lots of times I honestly thought I had made a mistake to get pregnant again. However... even after ALL of that I’m happy to say we have all settled into being a family of 4. I constantly tell my older son how awesome he is and how lucky baby is to have him as a brother. He is great with & enjoys the baby. I adore them both and am fortunate that my husband will look after the baby when possible so that I can still have special alone time with ds1. Now, I won’t change it for the world!

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This is going to sound cheesy as hell but i dont know of a better way to explain this. I have 4 kids now and i have felt the same way as you with all of my pregnancies. The truth is…when the new baby is here, your love isn’t divided between the two babies. It’s multiplied. I know it feels like you can never love anyone as much as your first child. You will love your next baby the same. It’s crazy how much we can love our kids.

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