What is one piece of advice that you would give a first time mom?

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Whether it is something you wish you knew, or something you did and would like to pass on.

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Don’t allow yourself to build up stress... don’t believe you’re a bad mum if you cry or get frustrated. Walk away and cry (as long as baby is in a safe space) cry cry cry cry Scream (away from baby) it’s okayyyyyy! Doesn’t make you weak. Doesn’t mean you don’t know what you’re doing. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad mum... it is normal to have children and just not know what to do...... and feel like everything is going wrong... these moments will always arise. Whether baby is a newborn or your kids are teens.... so make sure you clear your mind and accept that some nights are going to be crap. Accept that baby will have moments it will be fussy and you just DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. Accept that baby is going to cry at times even after fed changed and slept. Accept that your body won’t look the same. Accept that you will be hormonal... accept that your time will no longer be all yours... accept change. Accept the hardship. Accept the blessings... You need to be able to look after your baby as they rely while heartedly on you. Do what you need to do to be “okay” to look after baby. When it gets tough it WILL get better ❤️❤️❤️❤️ 
My first was a nightmare 
My second was the “ideal” baby
My third has his days... he is amazing... and he is hard..... 
It’s all okay. ❤️❤️

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Do not compare yourself to other moms. It will only bring you down. I have had friends tell me that they don’t know how i do it with 4 kids and how i always know what to do. I have to tell them that it’s not true at all. Im a mess most of the time. It really made me realize that i have done the same thing. Im thinking my friends got this mom thing completely figured out and im inadequate. Don’t fall into that trap. 
It doesn’t matter if you breastfeed or formula feed. In 10 or 20 years your kid will not care which they had as a baby. Do what works for you. I have a 13 year old and an 11 year old. They literally do not care about what they were fed as babies. Happy and healthy mom and baby is what matters. 
This is one i had no idea about until it happened with my oldest in the hospital. Nobody ever told me. Newborns have week eye muscles. So it is completely normal for their eyes to go cross eyed at times. They grow out of it as their eye muscles get stronger. My husband and i noticed our sons eyes got messed up all of a sudden. I pushed the call button for the nurse and was crying because I thought something was wrong with my baby. My husband was tapping his forehead and blowing in his face to try to get him to focus his eyes. We must have looked so ridiculous. The nurse came in and chuckled when we told her what was going on. She said it’s normal and explained why. We laugh about it now. But someone should have told is ahead of time. 😂

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Write things down. 
You might find yourself further down the track unable to remember certain details or memories from delivery / the first few weeks. Take lots of videos and photos, and write down all the things you want to remember.

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Oh there’s lots. But I’d say be in the moment as much as you can. Kids go through so many phases starting from birth and every month, even week will bring new things - good things and hard things. You might think you’ve gotten into a routine and then it changes or you need to adjust it. They might start sleeping great and you think yes!! And then they wake up every hour. You might love that one look your baby gives you and then they grow out of it. But so far, I love every phase. There’s so many sweet things to enjoy in each phase so try to live in that. I did a good job of giving myself grace on chores and messes and being in the moment with my first but I also worried about the hard phases and when they would end and if I was doing the right things in those moments. Now with my second I know how fast these moments go by and I know if he’s having an off week it’ll be over soon and I just gotta love him through it and ride it out. The days are long but the years are short!

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Have patience.
With yourself, your body, your baby, and life in general.
I had to learn to be patient, I still struggle with it sometimes.

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DO NOT stress out about getting baby on any type of schedule until 4-6 weeks minimum. Just survive!

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So something for mom during postpartum, if you think your bleeding is too heavy or you’re concerned about it, get checked. When I had my daughter I had zero clue what postpartum bleeding was normal and what wasn’t, I thought it was normal for it to continue on being somewhat like a period, well I ended up hemorrhaging at 2 weeks postpartum, they said a lot of women don’t come in even when bleeding heavily because they thinks it’s normal but it isn’t.

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Take pictures and be present as much as you can. They grow so dang fast and we only get them at this age once. You blink and they're already so big. 😢

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Any expectations you have, whether it be during labor or parenthood, let em go.

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Try not to stress about milestones. I had severe anxiety during the first couple of years of my son’s life any time he didn’t meet the expected milestones. All kids have different timelines, but it doesn’t automatically mean they’re autistic or have other developmental issues.

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