Post partum recovery plan/goals

How are you ladies getting back to normal/new normal after having baby?

This is my second child and with my first, I jumped back into life way too quickly. For this one, I am all about taking my time in all aspects of life, though I do have a toddler to take care of this time and am a sahm.

My problem is that now I'm just not sure how and when and what to gradually add back in to get from point A (absolute survival mode) to point B (full new normal mom of 2 mode).

Any thoughts or advice?