Stonewalling me

Fiance (ex fiance) has been stonewalling me since yesterday. I went to check on him today a day after an argument & asked if he still didn’t want to talk he said no. I said then what are you planning on doing. Hw said im moving out. I said are you sure, are you sure you don’t want to be with me anymore he said yes. I said then when are you moving “idk” was his response. After all

That i got close to him i said I didn’t want this i love you but i respect your decision if thats what you wamt but you need to be mature enough to speak to me even of it means you don’t want to be with me anymore. You act as if im your enemy & as if i have not done or meant anything to you. He just kept staying quiet. He lives in my house. He stayed quiet & I didn’t have a reason to be there trying to get words out of him or trying to work things out. Makes me very sad how can someone stonewall you a fiancé.

I have posted previously, he just makes me feel

So bad i keep wondering if i did do so wrong to

him to validate his behavior. We went over to a trip in a different city 8hours away. I had only met the owners (married couple that were celebrating the 1st year of their baby) & 2 other people that were going to be there but weren’t there at the moment. Well the rest of the invited friends i did not know. I heard my fiancé speaking to the female owner of the house about where we were going to stay (they were speaking a diff language) she basically said o well at the end of the night like they say in my country everyone throw yourself & find a spot. Basically meaning that we me & my ex fiance & possibly up to 5-6 ppl would sleep in the living room in air mattresses together with us a total of around 8ppl plus the rest that were staying in diff rooms. Well i said to my fiance why don’t we get a hotel, she said nooooo you guys can stay here he just nodded & dismissed what i said. He got so mad at me he looked at me with hatred (never seen that side of him towards me) said “you want a hotel we stay in a hotel”. Well I didn’t want to cauSe a scene i just stayed quiet, a couple min later he said you want to come to

The store with us? Did he expect me to stay there by myself while him a two other guys were going to the store to look for the matress & me

His fiance left behind (at that moment i didn’t even know who he was going with when he asked me) so i went with him & o was trying to find a place a moment where i could talk to him alone but he always had someone next to him. Well my only choice was to text him that I didn’t want to sleep with everyone that i wanted my privacy and to get ready ect that I didn’t feel comfortable & that I couldn’t believe he just spent like $60-70 for a mattress that heeee had to pay. & what upset me too is that he didn’t even check to see if it was okay with me to sleep With everyone. I mean in my perspective was I supposed to wait for 10ppl to take a shower before i could. Anyways well he got very mad.. the whole time but never gave me an answer on what we were going to do which frustrated me & I wasn’t comfortable acting like everything was normal. I stayed inside the house charging my phone, while he was outside with everyone that was there.. he went to check on me 3times by the third i said well you have not given me an answer about were we are staying. He said omg omg omg & walked outside the front door acting as if it was too much for him and exploding. Well it kind of bothered me i said look I don’t want to see you this way im juT askimg if we can get a hotel he said no we Are staying here i said are we he said yes! I said but I don’t feel

Comfortable he said we Are staying with “m” & “g” in their room with them. I could not believe it, like what was so hard to understand that its so simple to get a hotel makes things easier i felt like i was invading someones privacy and made me think he had mentioned to them that I didn’t want to sleep with everyone in the living room so fhey offered the room with them. Which what i wNted from my fiance was so choose withe me find a middle ground, not accommodate me to what other ppls suggestions. Before we went on the trip he told me they had a room for us, but changed when we got there. Well we both got fruatrTed i did say if this is going to keep happening that you make decisions by yourSelf without including me aince it affects fhe both of us I don’t think this will work. He said whats wrong with staying with “g” & “m” for two nights i said I don’t feel comfortable being with strangers he got furious (i guess I shouldn’t have uSed the word “strangers”) he said they are not strangers they are like a family to me, i lived with them for about 6months when i got here. Well he said we are done im taking you to your house we are done… i tried explaining i did not mean anything bad towRds them he still didn’t want to listen & stone wLled me since.

The day before the trip i had asked off early to

Even leave on time because i know how important this trip was for him. Well to my luck i lost my car keys (flushed down the toilet) well

I had my purse inside i had to find a way to get that out before the trip. Which delYed our time

We planned to leave. He got very upset at me after me not being able to

Find my spAre key. I knew i had one i just didn’t k ow where i had placed it. Before purchasing a new programmed one i wanted fo try to find this one since it would cost me $400 from

The dealership. He got frustrated & hit the car inside by the stick shift. It made me

Feel bad & i told him I didn’t like the way he was treating me. Well that night he apologized & we slept on a hotel (on our way to the trip) i said okay i just hope it doesn’t happen again its not okay. Because he made me shake when he got a bit violent. To me that was being violent idk if im wrong. i was sad with the way he acted with me

So i carried that to the next day that feeling of sadness that he was starting to be diff with me & that action showed it.. (when he hit the car out of frustration) & with the rest of things they all bundled ip on me. & he made it all about his friends basically thinking thT I don’t like them.. but thats not it.

So he didn’t give me a chance to try to make it work i begged for 2hrs on our wY back, because he wanted to bring me back before getting a hotel and miss on the celebration that was going to happen the next day. & well all the rest is him in my basement not saying a words to me. I was left feeling like it was all my fault.