Husband complains EVERYDAY...am I a bad mother???

every day he comes home it’s SOMETHING that I’m not doing right. My 2 year old took Cheetos in her room and he told me I’m letting us live like dirt balls because I hadn’t cleaned up the crumbs yet. I let her run around without a diaper to air out sometimes and he said that’s irresponsible of me. He told me I need to “try harder” and “do better”. We have a 20 month old and a 3 month old and he insisted on a puppy. I work full time 6am - 1pm and he works 10-7. So he’s gone all day. I am raising everyone the best I can. I haven’t showered in two days and I’m current sitting in my drenched pad because I haven’t had time between the crying, the bed time, the dog having accidents to even shower. He straight up tells me I need to try harder. He has no comprehension of the responsibilities I have. He has the freedom to do whatever and I’m here with the kids. I’m fucking upset.

Is he right? I’m at my breaking point and I already have ppd and mom guilt every single day that I need to be doing better. These kids have everything they need though. I know I can do better and try harder but this isn’t easy.

His rules are : NO food leaves the kitchen, I need to clean up immediately, no going without diapers ever, I can’t leave any door open at any given time so the dog doesn’t potty in the rooms, I need to be giving the dog attention, potty training him, making sure everything stays clean.

How the fuck do I manage all of this. I’m one woman. I feel worthless...

He just slammed the door after I got our newborn down and I yelled thanks for waking up the baby asshole!! And he responds fuck you bitch