Would you be upset if your husband said this??

We have a 3 year old & a 1 year old. I’m a SAHM & our 3 year old is giving me a run for my money. She’s very rambunctious & curious. She’s kind of impulsive as well. Anyway, she was having a “bad” day & had been sent to timeout multiple times & even lost tablet privileges due to her behavior. Nothing new really. She has good days & bad days like any toddler does. Her acting up isn’t an everyday thing. She’s usually really well behaved for a toddler. She’s more hyper active than anything.

My husband got home from work last night as I was trying to put her to bed. All I said was “she’s been quite naughty today” & his reaction was to start yelling at me, basically calling me a shit mom, saying I should just “give up” & “give her to a mom that can handle her”.

I blew up at him for saying such an awful thing. The worse part is our 3 year old heard him say that & fought her sleep even more than she already was asking me if I was gonna give her away.

About 30 minutes of me crying after our 3 year old fell asleep he has the audacity to ask “are you mad?” LIKE YEAH I’M MAD. Literally all I said was “she’s been naughty today” & his thought process was “let’s call her a bad mom & suggest I just give her away!”. So I said “yes, I’m mad” & he just yelled at me even more & got mad at me again because I was mad at him.

This morning he woke me up & goes “are you still mad at me?” to which I replied “what do you think?” & he got mad at me again.

I really don’t know what’s overcome him. We were literally fine & now we’re not. I don’t understand why he’s mad at me for being mad at him.