Feeling unappreciated

My partner has had a rough time trying to find another job after losing his job due to COVID. He found another job with GM but the company has shut down since March because of a micro chip and now he’s struggling again. I’ve been spending my time looking at apprenticeships for him and looking at what’s required, getting info from his past careers for the requirements and so forth.

Today during my lunch break I called him to tell him a preview of each apprenticeship and go over what he wants to do. Towards the end of the call his mood started to change and he seemed annoyed or irritated or like not really into it. I then asked him what he wanted to do and he just got quiet. I called his name a few times and it was silent but I could hear the fan in the background. I hung up and called back and he sent my call to voicemail.

I texted him and he said the way I was talking was killing his mood and he knows he’s in the wrong but he’s not in the mood talk…okay wtf. I texted him that I was upset because all I’m trying to do is help him and he doesn’t even care. I spent my entire time focusing on him and his career because that’s what he needs and yet I can’t even get a thank you? I told him if he knows he’s in the wrong to apologize and to stop taking me for granted because that’s what I’m feeling. He said he can’t handle criticism well and that he has feelings…like dude we’ve been together for 6 years and never have you been emotional person. (It’s one of the things we had to work out because he never opened up).

Well I’m at work and on my period so my emotions were high. I told him I felt hurt and mad and that I felt like crying and all he said is text him later when I’m calm or he’ll text me and that he loves me 😒😒. I’m not like extremely upset but I am hurt that I help him and support him and yet he can’t even be there for me when HE’S the one who hurt me. I left him on seen and now I’m just self reflecting on what I can do. I think I just need to take a step back and let him handle his business. If he needs help, I’ll try to let him figure it out first before helping. I’m not one to let others walk over me regardless of who it is. Until he starts being more appreciative of me and the things I do for him, I’m not interfering anymore. I’m done.