Just needing to vent

While going through a pregnancy scare (to clarify, my boyfriend and I are extremely careful and it was highly unlikely, I'm just an anxious person and overthink, especially bc I was waiting to get my IUD inserted and can't if I'm pregnant) I made a post in the pregnancy scare group on here. Some of the comments I've received while having scares really just make me upset, from "if you don't want to be pregnant you shouldn't be having sex" or "you need to be more responsible"... Idk if these upset anyone else, but it's really not what you want to hear when having anxiety over something like this. There are many reasons why I have sex, one of the biggest being a physical expression of love and a very intimate connection with the love of my life, and we understand pregnancy is a very real possibility but something that is also avoidable. We just aren't ready for kids yet, so it just makes me upset when I get people telling me this. Ik this may sound stupid I just needed to vent