My Boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and we are moving in together soon. He lives in his own apartment right now and We are both 21. His mom is strict, professional and to the rules. She constantly tells my boyfriend what to do. She Tells him ‘you need to be at my house to do this’ when he’s already busy doing something that he’s planned on doing. She tells him that he doesn’t spend enough time with family. (He sees his family every week though). And she was upset when he and I went on vacation together because she thought he was spending too much money and it wasn’t smart to do apparently. (We had a fantastic time going. It was so worth it. Plus we are fine with money…) And now she’s angry that we are moving in together. She was telling him that he’d be wasting money and that he’s moving too far away from his family. And the thing that bothers me the most is that she blames me. She told him that I’m controlling him. All we did was make a decision that we wanted to move to a certain place that was safe and secluded. And yes it’s a bit far away like 40 Minutes from his family…

I messaged her about that and I kept it very respectful and humble. And all she said was ‘you two are well to the house to talk’…

So fast forward My boyfriend is told to come to her house on Saturday and he asked if he could bring me…but she said that she wants him to spend time with family.. so she basically said no…

Idk what to do anymore….I’ve been to nice to her and I’ve tried so hard to fit in..I do t want to cause any conflict. I want to cry so bad because I’ve been through this before. I feel like I’m cursed. And I promise I’ve never done anything for her not to like me.

My boyfriend sticks up for me but it probably isnt enough because he hates conflict too. She treats him like he’s a 16 year old making stupid decisions. He’s sick of it and I am too. But I don’t want him to ‘choose one over the other’ cause yes family is important. But I want to feel welcome…😕 and if I don’t then idk what to do..