What do I do?

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So my boyfriend of 2 years openly confessed to me last night that a random girl added him on Snapchat and he added her back. She then asked him to go onto Google hangouts and video call. So he did. He then got very upset and cried when he admitted to me that she was fully naked in the video call and he was masterbating. It hurts me so much to think that he was naked over a video call with another female. He’s never been like this. And I can tell he’s so sorry. He’s never cried since I’ve known him and he hasn’t stopped crying for about 3 days now. I want to stay with him. But I am so hurt. I just need some advice on what you guys would do in my situation. And why you’d decide on that. Thankyou

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Sounds like an ex boyfriend to me

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Always remember he didn’t feel guilty doing it, he felt guilty getting caught. He didn’t feel guilty talking to her, he didn’t feel guilty seeing her naked, he didn’t feel guilty whipping his penis out and masturbating I feel guilty after the fact does he realize oh crap what did I do. And now he realized he screwed up and now he realize he put the relationship in jeopardy. But he didn’t feel guilty doing it remember that. And by you staying, that tells him that not only is the behavior acceptable, but that you will tolerate it, and when he does it again, and he will, because now he knows that you don’t want to be alone and that you Will tolerate whatever behavior, because you don’t want to be alone and now he knows he can use and take it vantage of you. Don’t stay. Trust me take it from the girl who stayed. Never again.￼

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If you want to try to make it work then I recommend couples counselling. Women are going to tell you 'once a cheater, always a cheater'. BUT don't let strangers influence your decision to stay or leave... It ultimately needs to be YOUR sole decision. Don't make this decision with just your heart. Use both logic and heart to find your conclusion. Best of luck ❤️

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If you stay with him, it will happen again. Any women on here can tell you that a man who loves you wouldn’t do it to begin with and since he has done it, he will again. 
You will never be comfortable again when he’s looking at his phone, takes a call in the other room, gone to the store for longer than he said he would be. That is no life to live honey. Pack him up and ship him out.

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Love will make you do dumb shit. So fuck all of that follow your heart bs. 
Use your brain love. It's the best thing you have. I say leave although  the choice  is yours but he did this with a stranger. He went through  so many steps where he could've  backed out and didn't.
Hell he could have watched porn for all of this. Imagine the possibilities of what he will do now after accepting  this bs. Tell him save those crocodile tears. Just  because he cries doesn't means he feels bad for it. 
What if he's  just playing with your emotions?  Atleast take a break and figure it out. 
Cheating ruins trust in a relationship so how would u ever trust him again in his phone? U got a lot to THINK about

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Aw, it does sound like he's sorry. If I were you, I would tell him that I appreciated his honesty but there will be some rules now and that if he isn't willing to do them to rebuild trust, then the relationship needs to end. If I were you, I would be incredibly hurt and insecure. Here's what I would tell him:
1. No more adding random girls. If he knows her in real life and is strictly friends, then it's fine. But no randoms.
2. I would want to be able to use his phone without him hesitating. If he didn't want me on his phone, I would worry that he had more to hide. 
3. If that girl isn't already blocked, BLOCK HER. 
You also need to have a conversation about why it happened. Does he need more intimacy from you? Was he just bored and needs to find something better to fill his time? Communication and honesty can fix this. If you want it to work out, be patient with him, appreciate his honesty, and find ways to rebuild your trust in him and don't let it affect your confidence too much. Best of luck love

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No break up with him. Don’t fall for that dumb shit.

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I've had an ex that would cry but he definitely was not sorry for the crap he did. 
If you choose to stay, I recommend couples therapy because he has broken your trust.

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I would leave. Super cool of him to give you the chance to make your own decision of whether or not to stay with a disloyal cheater. Now go find someone who wouldn’t do that to you.

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He would be my ex. He wanted it at the time. Now he feels guilty. Fuck that.

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