Would you say something?

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So my husband and I came up with a boy name and a girl name for baby #2. I'm a therapist for kids so we lean towards names that aren't overused but aren't too uncommon or odd. We landed on two names that we like and weren't going to share but my niece (age 10) asked and I figured it wouldn't be any harm. It was a video call so my mom heard. Long story short, both "approved" of the girl name and didn't like the boy name at all. To the extent that they were like "why did you guys pick THAT?" with obvious yuck face. I truly don't care and am trying to not let it affect our choice but I'm lowkey pissed that they were rude about it. Would you say something to your mom about it? (The 10 year old gets a pass lol).

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My family didn’t like the name we chose for our boy, Maxwell. I didn’t and still don’t care, now he’s almost 2 and they all love him, not that they would love him more with a different name or something. It’s your kid, name them what you want and don’t worry about what anyone else’s thinks about it.

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My family didn’t like the name we chose for our first but now that love it. It totally fits her personality. They have totally different opinions than my husband on pretty much everything though so I was used to it. Same thing happened with this baby but I know once they spend time with it they will love it. Also people feel more inclined to share their opinion when the baby isn’t born yet which is why I don’t tell very many people till it’s here. They don’t realize that it’s rude and I have enough going on so I try to let stuff like that go lol.

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My mom hates the names I pick. She still hates my daughter's name to this day and isn't shy to say it. I just tell her that I really don't care what she thinks. She asked, therefore I answered. Then again,  I'm not exactly a friendly person when you piss me off, and tend to speak my mind so there's that... 🤷‍♀️

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My grandma was an utter bitch about the name we picked for our daughter. I mean total bitch comparing the name to a prostitute and said I’m scarring her for life. The name was Delilah and she hates it because of the woman named Delilah in the Bible. It was absolutely insulting. Both my husband and I decided to go along with it and had her name in the nursery and everything. At this point we loved the name and wanted to do it to spite my grandma because she was so ugly about it (she’s a bitch about everything, I love her but she’s awful). Anyways, when my daughter was born last November we actually changed our minds on the way to the hospital and named her Emerald instead. Lol buuuutttt if this one (our third) is a girl, her name will be Delilah. Lol fuck them, don’t say anything and just smile while you use the name you love and let her wallow in her distaste for the name 😊

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When I was pregnant with my first something similar happened to me. I was taking to a coworker about it. They have 4 kids and said “there’s always going to be one person who doesn’t like the name you pick. At one point in every pregnancy we highly considered changing the name and in the end we stuck it out and it’s been perfect!” Once baby gets here no one really says anything about the name anymore, only once they arrive. My mom didn’t like our first boy’s name and when he as born she said, “it just fits him so perfectly, I couldn’t name him anything better.”

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Yes and I did when my mom did the same thing when we had our 2nd baby. I told her that I never asked for her opinion that she asked me what his name was going to be. Yeah got mad but I didn’t/ don’t give a damn. I never asked for her opinion but since she gave it I gave her a piece of my mind!

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At the end of the day it’s still your choice on what you and your husband choose to name your child. But I would just explain to your mom how it made you feel and how strongly you and your husband really like the name and for her to respond they was she did made you feel some type of way.

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My 10 year old niece had the same reaction when I told her my now 20 month olds name. She couldn’t even pronounce it right and had the ultimate yuck face. But now they’re the total best friends and she absolutely loves her and the name. I don’t think it has much to do with what name you pick it’s mostly that they create their own picture in their heads about names and think you’ll pick what they want.

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Look, at the end of the day, it's your choice. The name will go through life with your kid. My brother named my oldest nephew Rye. With the last name included his name is pronounced Rice-A-Roni, and I wish I were joking. He did it on purpose. Come to findnout this year that Rye is autistic and I was already worried about how his name will shape his experience in school. My brother tried to say a few years back that "it will teach his son humility if someone makes fun of his name." But with his new diagnosis I'm worried it might be even harder for him to understand. (I no longer talk to my brother and live 1200 miles away from home, so I don't get to see or talk to any of the kids as much as I'd like.) 
However, tangent aside, if you are close enough with your mom tell her it's not her business in whatever way works for you. My dad has been suggesting the worst girl names and I just tell him to fuck off, not that it discourages him at all. 🤣 he also knows I won't pick a name for my kid that might make their lives difficult like my nephew's. His younger brother, same mom, got named after all his great grandpa's so his name is more normal.

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I know my grandma didn’t like The name my mom chose for me originally and was vocal about it and my mom changed it. Im super glad she did ahha it was a terrible name she had before (not that Im saying yours is)

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