Pushy grandparents

Hi all, I’m due to have my baby any day, we are naturally very excited but unfortunately my dad has decided to visit us less than a week after the due date.

I expressly told him I don’t want visitors until the end of august. He took that to mean the 22nd

This is my last baby and I really wanted to do things my way, I wanted a 2 week grace period where my partner and I and my two boys got used to our new life with the new little one and then we would have guests.

There has been a long history of my dad and his wife inviting themselves without consulting me first.

They usually stay in a b&b up the road as my house is too small. But that doesn’t stop them expecting me to drive them on days out with my boys and I, and cook for them whilst they drink expensive wine at my house.

Last year just before the covid thing became mainstream I contracted covid over Christmas, they came down and still expected me to take them out for the day and put on a buffet and let them drink wine in my house till 11 pm. I was VERY SICK and couldn’t get out of bed. And my poor mum ended up catching covid from me because she was looking after me the whole time. They just told me “it’s a bit of flu, don’t be a baby”

Anyhoo, back to this visit. I’m absolutely dreading it now and if I go past my due date there’s a chance I’ll be way too wiped out and mentally all over the place due to hormones to stay nice with them and not give them a gob full.

I don’t want to create family upsets but I feel like once again it’s all about them and not about my baby my other children or myself and my partner.

I’m not even sure how to raise the subject with them without causing a family row.

😢