I'm about to give up

I've been married to my husband for 3 years, been together for about 13 years. We have 3 daughters (an almost 3 year old and 4 month old twins). We keep fighting. Everyday. And today we were fighting because he never listens to me or validates me and my problems or concerns. He literally told me that his procrastination is making him "not listen or care" about me or what I say. Everytime we fight he offers me help, snacks, or anything he knows I like. I'm so sick of only getting treated like I dont matter, until I explode, and then have him care or be concerned of me wanting to end the marriage.