We never spend time as a family

My husband works 3 12 hour shifts and is then off 3 days in a row. With occasional overtime. On the days he works, he doesn’t get off tell 6, doesn’t get home tell 6:30. Immediately takes a shower and isn’t out tell 7 sometimes later, eats dinner for about 30 minutes and then at 7:30, I get the kids a bath and get them ready for bed. They spend time with him for about 30 minutes until they go to bed at 8:30. Then on the days he’s off, he sleeps all day. I get that he has to work hard, but he gets more sleep than I do even on days he has to work! Even when he lets me sleep in, he goes back to bed as soon as I get up. And he lets the kids destroy the house while I’m asleep. Like today, I didn’t feel too hot this morning bc my period started last night and it’s been brutal. I feel like I have the flu. But I got up and got our oldest ready for school, took him to school, when I got back about 8:15, he was up with our toddler. I went back to sleep and slept tell 1. Which I never do. But my youngest is cutting his molars and didn’t sleep hardly at all last night and I was the one up with him plus just feeling like shit. As soon as I woke up, he went back to sleep and won’t get up. It’s 5:30. It’s frustrating bc he sees nothing wrong with it. He says we have nothing to do anyway. He only cares if we have plans with his parents or we’re going to do something with the kids. But why can’t we just spend time together at home as a family without him being asleep, playing his video game or guitars?