FTM-14w-still in denial about pregnancy?

Question

I wish I could explain this better. I’ve seen the ultrasound, heard the heartbeat, saw the baby moving on the screen and I feel like I’m seeing all this from 3rd person perspective-like it’s not happening to me. I had a big belly pre-pregnancy, so it’s not like I have a “bump” or feel the baby inside me yet. It’s hitting me today like “o crap, I think I’m going to have a physical baby in my arms in a few months??” 
I’m not sure what’s making me feel this way. Am I waiting for the other shoe to drop? 
It’s made me feel cautious about preparing for baby and not buying anything “just in case” something happens. 
Maybe I don’t feel deserving 🤷‍♀️😞

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I can relate to this feeling. We told our parents at 8 weeks and and that point I still felt a disconnect. Even telling them didn’t make it totally real. I got pregnant the first month of trying so it was almost like I didn’t have time to hope/wish/get excited before it had happened. Because of how easy it happened and not being overly sick the first trimester, I definitely had a feeling of “this was too easy, somethings going to happen”, and for me it did. I had a bleeding episode at 10 weeks, was diagnosed with a subchorionic hematoma, which has subsequently started to shrink thank goodness. I do think that experience made me realize how much I wanted this baby, not just a baby but the one inside me now. Despite trying to “distance” myself because of the unknown, the bond has occurred and I’m sure it will deepen throughout the pregnancy. I’m not sure I have advice, I don’t think it’s something you can force and it may not happen till the baby is here or even after and that is okay! I’m not sure if I would feel the way I do now if the bleeding did not occur honestly. We also recently found out the sex which also makes things more real as it’s easier to imagine them.

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I suffered with some major denial the first few weeks after finding out I was pregnant with this one! We were trying to prevent anymore kids (IUD) cause of all the big financial decisions we had to make —and that was without one on the way. So disappointment was an understatement when I took positive pregnancy test after positive pregnancy test. Yeah, it was that kind of denial. 🤦‍♀️ Lol 
Anyway, it took about 10 weeks to come to terms with it. It was actually one small moment a couple weeks ago, that I started to feel happy about this pregnancy, which included butterflies for the love I felt for this unborn child in that moment. It was when my midwife went to listen to the heartbeat, she'd find it for a second and it would just wiggle away. She fought it for like 4 minutes trying to count the beats. 😂 That was the moment things started changing in my mind. 
Our first, another total surprise (started dating my now husband and found out 5 weeks later we're expecting — what can I say, we're good at making babies!!), I was pretty indifferent the whole pregnancy. Never really felt a huge bond with her. She was daddy's girl from the beginning. I actually had never been around babies or kids at all until I was holding my own. That was an awkward kind of feeling! It took a while for me to get things down as a mom, but did eventually!
Try not wear yourself down with a bunch of what if's and worst case scenarios. Pregnancy is hard enough on our physical and mental state as is. Sending love your way, mama. ♥️

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I honestly feel the same way. I have seen many ultrasounds, heard the heart beat and have had testing done. I have had zero symptoms at all and I’m 120lbs with literally no bump or weight gain yet. I guess maybe once I actually have a bump it will hit me.

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I just had a conversation with my husband about this. I forget that we’re pregnant because I can’t feel any movement yet. We had a loss before this, so I always have anxiety. I have a bump and we have a name, but it still doesn’t feel real to me. I suspect it will once I can feel her moving.

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Buy something and see how you feel. Let yourself be excited, but I understand the feelings you’re having. I had to losses before my last pregnancy. I kept waiting for bad news. I’m 18 weeks with my second and just left the dr. Still get nervous when I go in and am waiting for the ultrasound. I thought it would be better this time around since I had a healthy pregnancy with my daughter. It’s not. I still have the am I actually going to have a baby in April feeling.

FTM-14w-still in denial about pregnancy?

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