I flipped out.

So my bf wanted to have sex tonight. I was putting our daughter to bed and he took his pants off and was like “can you keep it warm” I told him sure but he’s not putting it inside cause I’m not in a mood. Our daughter falls asleep and he’s like expecting something and put his hands on my butt and starts doing that shit where it a sign like “ let’s fuck” well I said “you know what’s funny?” He stops and goes “huh” I said “ I find it funny how us moms do 90% of the taking care of kids and cleaning and we don’t get a little self time cause its mommy and just because the sahm don’t go to work it’s like we don’t deserve a god damn break. But since daddy goes to work he rest and stuff I understand that but on daddy’s days off it’s still mommy doing everything, then your mother be texting me and shit saying how ‘he stressed’ but nobody thinks about mommy or how mommy is feeling because mommy been stressed mommy be fucking crying in silence and nobody ask mommy how she doing no nobody see me stressed or anything lord forbid it. But then at the end of every day or every other day daddy wants some pleasure but how can he get some if mommy is always fucking tired and she can’t get herself ready or anything since mommy has to take a quick 5 to 10min shower cause the baby always starts screaming if not she jumping out her damn bouncer. Y’all want some damn sex well at least a dad can do is watch the damn baby so mommy can freshen up get ready to have some damn sex. My shit is like a damn Forrest and it needs to get trimmed down but how if mommy never gets a break.” He got all quite put his sweats back on and was just laying next to me, his alarm goes off to get ready for work and he goes down to get ready.

All this stress is making me feel emotionally and physically done. I was working but I had to stop cause of health issues but even then I would still do everything. I told him the day he wants to take my feelings into consideration it will be too late.

Edit: I understand y’all but I don’t feel like I’m in the wrong and I’m not Apologizing. I told him I am not in the mood he did not listen and tried again but I have been telling him my emotions and he has not been listening to me at all I got angry so I got loud cause he only listens to me when I get loud and angry. It’s not fair I listen to him when he’s feeling some type of way but when I try to talk to him he don’t wanna listen to me or if not he listens and don’t do shit. I used to be all in for sitting down and talking I taught him that but I’m done doing that. I want to be heard like I be hearing him. He ALWAYS think sex is the answer when I’m stressed or feeling some type of way.

Update2: let me make this clear for some IDIOTS on here. this post is for stah MOMS who understands ME. If you dont. MOVE Your ass along! And Isabel I am not just a mother I am a bad ass mom and the definition of a bad ass mom is a councilor, nurse, teacher, cook, maid, the nightmare dream killer who saves the day at night when my kid has a bad dream and an architecture who builds cool ass forts! Don’t ever downgrade mothers cause we ARE THE SHIT!!! anyways the mamas on here who understand me guess what? HE admitted he’s been unfair lately and noticed how exhausted I am from doing basically everything. He himself said he is going to do more and he apologized for not keeping up to his agreement. Mamas ever since I got loud he has changed and I see improvement on his end. My thing is don’t be afraid to get LOUD, sometimes that’s what you need in order for someone to HEAR you. Usually my man and I 95% of the time be having smooth talks but this was that other percentage and at the end of the day we still love each other no matter what ❤️ because we both know we can handle everything as long as we understand one another. He was not mad that I blew up with his sweats off he said he rather have me blow up instead of pleasing him while I’m feeling some type of way. He wants BOTH of us to enjoy sex not just him and yes I got rid of my forrest and we went to town lol