Mama/People who take covid seriously ONLY… Am I wrong for how I feel?

I want to start off by saying that if you feel that even with covid, you are safe to go out and live your life as normal, you do you, I’m happy for you that you feel comfortable. But I currently do not and covid is scary to me. If you can’t respect that, this post isn’t for you. 😊

I am pregnant with a high risk pregnancy - 18 weeks, and have a 8 month old. I spoke with a high risk doctor today who told me that she strongly feels that if I were to catch Covid, my unborn baby would be at high risk for premature labor. Later in the day, my dad - who is an alcoholic with control issues and used to be emotionally abusive to me (all self-admitted qualities)- asked if I was attending thanksgiving on his side of the family, saying I “need to take an opportunity for them to meet the baby.” I said no because I can’t afford to get sick - I’m spending a lot of money on appointments and medicines to try to keep baby healthy, I don’t want to waste money doing all this just to get sick and her come early or have complications when it could’ve been avoided. And I’m also scared because a really young child in the family got covid and was so sick she had seizures and had to be hospitalized, even tho she was vaccinated too. Since my son was born, my dad and I have butted heads a couple times because he has never respected my boundaries and likes to try to bully & guilt trip me into doing things his way. He wants to play grandpa of the year after being emotionally absent AND abusive for YEARS. So he says “well I wouldn’t put you in a situation where you would get sick so I don’t know why you would say that” and how my mom wouldn’t either (but she really only goes because she’s scared of him). In the past, he has even gone as far as making up lies about the vaccine’s protection. I just wish I could get him to understand that it’s nothing personal to anybody and I don’t think anybody would purposely harm us, but I feel like I need to put my babies first. And I feel if he TRULY cared about his new grand baby as much as he claims, he would hear about the risk of early labor and be on my side.