is it bad that i get upset by this?

TW/loss

by upset i don't mean mad, it just bothers me i guess. but i lost my baby due to premature birth in the 2nd trimester, i've had a lot of people talk to me about how many women have miscarriages and how common it is, but i didn't have a miscarriage. both is a tragic loss, but what happened to me definitely wasn't a miscarriage. my baby was alive when i gave birth and then he wasn't. i don't say anything to them about it because i know they're probably just trying to find a way to relate and sympathize, and i don't feel like mine was "worse", it was just completely different and it bothers me when it's compared to something that isn't the same.

i just feel like they aren't in the same category, what happened to me is only a 6% chance out of all preterm births. it's not common, and it upsets me when people write it off like it's just something that commonly happens and to get over it basically. and even if it was a miscarriage i don't care how "common" it is, it's a fucking death of a child. and i hate when people act like it isn't a big deal just because my baby didn't live for weeks, months, or years. it wrecked my world and every day is a fight to try to keep my mental health okay.

i am in therapy and i feel i'm healing as well as expected but lately the comments have grown more from people who i guess are starting to feel more comfortable talking about it since time has passed and i guess they think i should have "moved on" by now so i've just been overwhelmed with these emotions since i don't want to go off on someone just because they're unsure on how to comfort someone with loss