I just wanna know am I being mean/over reacting or not?! I’m not trying to be.

So my mil loves to say weird shit to me. I only met her maybe 4 times. My husband and I got married fast. She lives in another city. I grew up in a family where we don’t say I love you. We show it. So I can only say it to my husband/ daughter.

Anyways MIL loves texting me “I love you melanie. You have brought nothing but happiness into OUR lives.”

Am I wrong for feeling uncomfortable. I respect her as his mother completely but the whole constantly smothering me with I love you and throwing “our” into many things makes me SO uncomfortable. Like my husband is your son not spouse. I married him… not you. You’re the plus. I’m not trying to be mean. But they have one of those “I love a mamas boy” relationship. If you have seen the show. It wasn’t so obvious when we was dating. It’s that type of relationship that has you question the mother son relationship.

I had him delete his Facebook with me because she would make constant morning most expressing her love for him and the. I reactivated mine to give pregnancy updated and she started making daily I love you melanie posts. I said no I can’t handle this is weird and uncomfortable.

She has compared me to his ex once. And the ex had the same uncomfortable feeling with their relationship.

My husband lost his dad due to COVID this year so I’m trying to mind my business and ignore to be respectful but now I feel like she’s forcing a lot of their weird relationship on me. Oh and she tries to force their bible thumping on me. My husband is religious but respects my non beliefs fully and doesn’t care.

I know this is a lot but I needed to vent. lol there’s a lot more to this.

I just wanna know if it’s ok for me to feel this way or?!?! There’s more stories and issues if y’all wanna know. Like she tried to control my plans for my wedding and was very difficult to the point I almost canceled the engagement. This is the smallest issues I have.

The only reason she was gonna not come for Christmas was because of hotel money but then constantly buying us things we don’t need or want. I know she has the money but I know the real reason is because I won’t let her stay in our TINY two bedroom one bath house while I’m pregnant. So I offered her my moms guest room which is 30 mins away. Which he agreed with me. She doesn’t visit anymore because I don’t let her stay here cause there’s simply no space or room.

I’m sorry it’s a lot I can go on. My mom and dad doesn’t really bother us only when needed lol