Is this bullshit or does she have a point?

My boyfriend and I have an 8.5 month old. He has bipolar and takes medications at night, so I’ve woken up with baby 98% of the time, unless he woke up early and could help or something like that. I’ve also been a stay at home mom so it just worked out. But I’m thinking of going back to work once baby hits 11 months old or so and plan on working night shift a couple nights during the week so that we will not need a babysitter. The only option we have for a babysitter is in her mid-70’s, she’s had two surgeries that put strain on her body, and she’s already warned me that she would be getting help (from someone my boyfriend and I have never even met - nooo thank you 😅) if we were to use her help.

I was talking to my boyfriend’s relative and it came up in conversation. She asked about his medications and I told her that he is fine enough to make a bottle or two if really needed and can wake up in emergencies, just can’t handle waking up throughout the night, like I had. Her response was “well if he has to wake up, he’ll be tired”. I wanted to snap back and say “oh yeah, I can’t imagine how hard it is to be tired from waking up with the baby” or even just say “it’s only a couple nights a week, he’ll manage”. I just feel like that’s ridiculous. He’s the dad. We have no other good option - the only other option we have is a person who is physically limited and a complete stranger, so I should be able to rely on him to help, especially when I’ve sacrificed for so long