Relationship after Baby
Hey you guys!! I just am facing some internal feelings that I really kind of want an unbiased opinion on! So my fiancé & I have been together almost 2 years and just brought home our first baby together about a week ago! (I have a 4 year old son from a previous relationship and my fiancé has completely taken over the role of dad.) I know a lot of couples probably go through this, but I just feel like he is busy taking care of and worrying about everyone/everything else but me. He is doing an amazing job as a “new dad” and is so on top of everything. He has mentioned a few times to me how tired and stressed out he is which I completely respect and understand. I just feel like things between us have been so awkward since we left the hospital. All our hugs have turned into middle school side hugs, we’ve started using separate blankets in bed so in turn, we don’t snuggle or even touch at night. I couldn’t even tell you the last time we’ve kissed or even told each other “I love you goodnight.” We really only have even talked if it’s about the baby. I believe all this is starting to affect my mental health because I just am starting to feel like 2 people who take care of kids together, instead of a family with a new baby. I just know if I’m feeling like this only after a week, I can only imagine where my brain & emotions will go if this keeps up. I guess where I’m at now is like, I want to talk to him about it but he so stressed out and anxious right now and I don’t want to add more negatives to his mental load and stress him out even more. What do y’all think? Should I talk to him, or see how things go for another few days? I just need his reassurance and love and support so I can be strong and heal and take care of my family. Also I’m sorry this got so long, that wasn’t my intention, but thanks if you’ve read this far!! Anyone gone through anything similar?? How’d you handle it?? #onelonelymama
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