No desire post baby?

Question

My sons 8 months, will be 9 at the end of this month. He’s my 3rd and my oldest are 12 and 8. I still have ZERO desire for sex… I don’t even want to kiss or be touched. I didn’t have this problem with my first two. My husbands a wonderful man, great father. There’s no reason NOT to want to be affectionate or have sex but since having this baby, it’s like a forced chore I don’t want to do lol. I have pitty sex maybe once a month 😬
I’m exclusively breastfeeding and my sons super needy. At first I thought it was just being drained from having to hold and nurse a baby 24/7. My son still refuses to sleep without me and usually wants me to hold him all day, even at this age. 
Anyone else deal with this and have any advice? My husbands a kind, and patient man, but I know it bothers him and hurts his feelings a bit.

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It could def be from breastfeeding still. 
Do you and your husband have date nights? Just the two of you? Sometimes you need to schedule a time to just be together and have your moments to focus on your marriage & relationship away from the kids. You don’t need to have sex (although it could lead to that) but intentional focus on each other could be very beneficial.

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Yep and I'm pregnant again and still like this, after mine was born I felt exactly like you, I think it's just you child taking all of your time and attention, at the end of they day it's exhausting. I want my space at the end of the day and kissing and all of that is a chore now.

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Tbh women beat themselves up about this but it really biologically makes sense. Our bodies are telling us not to have any more children because back in the day it was much harder to keep multiple tiny babies alive.

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I’m kindve embarrassed to say but I’m six months pp and still have yet to have sex with my husband.. 😭

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I wasn’t up for sex until a few months after I stopped nursing. My poor husband. He was so very tolerant and patient with me. I just didn’t feel sexy, or anything like myself. I nursed for 15 months and then it was probably 2-3 months after that when my milk had dried up that I finally started having sex again.

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I thought my drive would return after breastfeeding. It sadly it has not. 😢

No desire post baby?

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