Anxiety about labor after miscarriages

I’m at a low point in my life where I know I want to have kids but I’ve developed anxiety related to pregnancy after 2 miscarriages (I was 2 months along and miscarried both of them at home)

I had someone freak me out by saying that if I was so upset and in so much pain from the miscarriages then I won’t be to handle labor at all. Every time I think about conceiving I keep picturing all those moments in movies when the mother cries uncontrollably during labor due to pain.

I’m going to start seeing a therapist but any advice from you amazing mother’s would be highly appreciative.