Did I overreact?

*No shade to mamas who use cry it out methods, I just don’t feel it is the right fit for my little one and me*

Over the last few weeks, my 8 month old has definitely become a mama’s boy. If he’s crying, he only settles for me. If he’s tired, he looks for me to cuddle him. If I leave the room, he looks for me. Especially because I am now pregnant again, family insists that I should be “teaching him to be independent”, that I “spoil him too much by holding him”, and, my favorite, that “if I respond to his cries, it just teaches him that if he cries, I will comfort him”. Everyone tells me I need to just let him cry it out, but I don’t feel comfortable with the idea. I had to do it once the other day because we were in the car and he fell asleep, but only after choking himself struggling to breath and screaming for half an hour.

My SO’s family member wanted him to take a nap while he was holding him the other day. But my little one wanted to come to me to lay down and wouldn’t let up. So he cried and screamed soo loud. To the point I went upstairs to try to grab something and just to test it, shut the door and walked to the far side of the room. I could still hear baby and he was struggling to breath again. I wanted to take him back but any time he would lock eyes with me and reach for me, the family member would say “no you’re okay”, started telling baby that “they didn’t care how loud he got.” “The noise didn’t bother him”, and tried to move him so he could no longer see me. He planned on just letting baby cry and cry and cry and I didn’t like it. I got upset with my SO because he just stood there, KNOWING I do not like having baby “cry it out”, and watched, doing/saying nothing. I tried to tell him I felt like he should have stepped in because it’s his relative. He said I “had an attitude” and “it’s not like he was hurting him”. 😑