AM I UNREASONABLE OR I’M DEALING WITH AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE HUSBAND

Im 35, we’ve been married for 17 years. In December 2019 I discovered that he was cheating on me with multiple sex partners. From 2016 to the period I found out he admitted to have slept with +/- 30 women(prostitutes) and he also had a permanent side chick he was involved with for about seven months. He asked for forgiveness and he begged that I give our marriage a chance because he had completely repented. I decided to give us a chance because overall he had been a good husband and I loved him.

I was devastated, felt so angry and betrayed. Out of anger I started flirting with 3 guys I know it was wrong of me to behave in such a manner.

When my husband found out (November 2020) that I was chatting with other guys he went berserk, shoved me around a bit and he later calmed down and apologized. We discussed the matter amicably and we agreed to continue working on our marriage.

The main challenge is that he has become more insecure. Countless video calls in a day just to check on me. He goes through my phone checking who I have been talking with of which I’m not chatting to any guy. The act of him going through my phone agitates me so much but he says it should not agitate me if I have nothing to hide.

Him scrolling through my phone gets to me because he is the one cheated and he is acting victim. After all the cheating he did is it so wrong of me to become agitated and angry when he scrolls through my phone?