Completely unaware that for our 4 year marriage my husband has been watching porn. The problem: before we got married he told me he was stopping. It was his choice. So here I am with an almost 1 year old trying to hold it together. Do I stay? Do I leave? I know people don't see porn the way I do and are generally more lenient. My view: it's a form of cheating. So do I forgive? How do I forgive? Any and all advice please!

Edit:

We have had several conversations regarding porn and how I view it. Before becoming a couple we talked about his use of porn and not once did he say he was addicted to it or that it was hard for him to stop. Once we got engaged he made the decision to stop. About once a year the topic of porn has come up. And I always state my feelings about it.

The extent of the problem: once or twice a day to masturbate. He can not masturbate with out.

I would also like to clarify that I am not trying to control him. He can do whatever he pleases; but that also means so can I. He's known since day 1 how I feel about porn. He has known I am willing to leave because of it. We did not get married without having these deep conversations and agreements. He has chosen to watch it. I have the choice to leave. I am not threatening him or trying to be controlling. He agreed upon these statutes.

I want to thank everyone for their comments and especially thank those who took the time to consider my point of view in the matter.