okay so i mentioned before that my husband and i are getting our vows renewed and giving ourselves the wedding we never had but i think we’re running into our first “BIG” issue..

alcohol or no alcohol.

i’m a recovering alcoholic (14 months sober) and my husband doesn’t drink at all. i didn’t think much about making alcohol accessible until last night when my mom(still in active alcohol addiction) asked whether we were doing an open bar or not. at first i immediately said no. but after some talking, ig it’s not fair to completely shut off alcohol for others since i’m the only person who’s currently on a sobriety journey. at the same time it doesn’t seem right to allow people to get shit faced(because i know certain people won’t keep it “classy”) on what’s suppose to be a day about me and my family.. i asked my husband what he thinks but he’s not a drinker so he has no opinion on it.

the other issue is the event is the day before valentine’s day so i could understand if people would want a glass of wine or two. which makes me think maybe only getting one bottle per table or couple wouldn’t be a bad idea but i’m worried people might not behave and steal it from others.. it definitely can’t be BYOA because again, certain people won’t have my best interest in mind.

idk any solutions or opinions ??