Bit of a long one, sorry.

When I first gave birth to my daughter in November I had baby blues but my health visitor kept saying it was post natal depression even though it went within 2 weeks of her birth and I've been fine ever since. During this time she said she would refer me to the local Children's Center which was fine because I would have loved the groups they have to offer. Due to cuts and everything I've only just got a phonecall regarding the referral which is fine but I don't feel I need it now as me and baby are very social and see friends and family several times a week and leave the house every day without fail so it's not like we're sat at home all day. Anyway the lady of the phone did the assessment and suggested baby massage, fine I'll do that. The lady really wound me up though because I mentioned that mine/my husbands families are the only ones who looks after her if we need to go out or for a date night and the woman said I should have other people who are not family look after her too. Why on earth should I if family are available? Covid is still a massive risk. I'm on mat leave so why would I let someone else look after her, when family look after her it's for a couple of hours if needed. Nursery/childminders cost a fortune and wouldn't want to do just a one off with her. And frankly I don't want a stranger looking after my baby, she's still only 11 weeks old, we're still finding a routine and every else. She went on and on about it and made me feel terrible. Basically my question is now can I opt out of the baby classes they want to provide me because honestly I don't want to be involved with the health visitors now unless it's her usual health visitor checks. This might sound like I'm being dramatic and maybe I am but I had such a hard time with midwives after my birth and then the health visitor telling me I'm depressed I've gone off the idea of having all these people involved and "trying to help" because they only make me feel like I doing a crap job.