My husband and I have always had a great relationship, we rarely argue. My only real issue with him is some of his views on who’s responsible for house cleaning/care.

I’m 8 months pregnant right now, I work from home full time with set hours 9-6 Monday-Friday. My job requires me to attend virtual meetings daily, meet deadlines and answer about 4-5 calls a day. This job has become increasingly stressful over the last few months as several people have left, and given that it’s a startup, my boss has just placed all this extra stuff on me without increased pay and called it “temporary”.

I had a conversation with my husband and let him know after my 12 weeks unpaid (thank you America for nothing) maternity leave, if things are still this demanding at my job then I won’t be returning and I would like to go back to freelancing. With my current job I make about $2500 every two weeks, with freelancing I would make about $800 every two weeks depending on how much time I put in. BUT it allows me to work when our son is napping, not have to pay for child care, and set my own hours.

My husband immediately turned this down, and said no. So I brought up daycare, and let him know that we would have to send our son to daycare at 3 months old then because I cannot work from home 9-6 and also take care of a baby ALL DAY. He mentioned that daycare in our area is ridiculous, like honestly more than our mortgage monthly and also said no to it.

He’s absolutely refusing to budge. He makes good money but he is also gone from 7am-9pm almost daily and typically only has one day in the weekend where he’s off. I just don’t feel like I can manage the entire home, and my job and the baby. Because I can’t just work when the baby is sleeping with my current job. And when I’m on calls with clients I cannot have a baby on my boob. I don’t know what to do. I’ve already asked my boss to go part time or flexible hours after I return and she basically told me that’s not an option with how short staffed we are. So I’m extremely frustrated and don’t know what to do. We could EASILY afford living on just his income, we have no debt, our cars are paid off. Literally our only bills monthly are the mortgage and utilities. We would cut back a bit on entertainment stuff but That doesn’t bother me.

How can I fix this and help him understand?

Edit- my job is demanding, some days I don’t even get a lunch break because of the constant messages and tasks coming my way. So I will not have any time throughout the day on the majority of days to put all my attention towards the baby. Maybe 10 minutes here or there but other than that my boss micromanages and Is constantly on my ass.