I have a three year old son who is ignoring or being kinda mean to me since I got pregnant. Now I’ve had the baby, and it’s not better.

The pregnancy was really hard, so DH took over many of my tasks and things I’d do with DS, including many of the special things like reading bed time stories, bath time, school pickups etc.

Now, I’m two weeks post partum, and it continues, when I can spend time with my son away from the new baby, he wants nothing to do with me. All he wants is daddy. Son will roll his eyes when I talk to him, tell me he doesn’t want me, only daddy etc. I didn’t even know toddlers knew how to roll their eyes!

What should I do. I feel like a doormat, wanting to hangout with DS and DH but being the third wheel. He won’t engage when it’s just us. At the same time, I do need to spend time with the new baby, and I’m recovering from a c section (it’s been two weeks) so I can’t run around or sit on the floor and play cars etc very well anyway m.

I’m a worried he’ll never want to be close to me again. That we’ll never get this come back to normal moment and I’ll just be excluded from things. I tell myself, “you’re the mom, you don’t need to be the best friend”. But I do want to have an affectionate relationship with him bc I love him so much.

Anyone have similar circumstances but positive outcomes? Any advice? Feeling so bummed.