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I'm more concerned you moved your child in after knowing a man for 3 months. He's showing red flags early by trying to manipulate you into feeling guilty about getting rest.
Boyfriend gets mad I sleep early
I've known my boyfriend for 3 months we moved in quick and hit it off good. We have alot in common. The one thing we disagree on every weekend is me getting tired early. I have a 1 year old, just turned 1 can't walk yet. And i work 9 am to 5 at a nail salon 45 minutes away. My son is also in daycare whilst I'm at work. During the week I'm always drained and sleep with my son at 8. On the weekend I'm running around making dinner tending to my son and my bf expects me to stay up late to spend time with him even on Sunday nights. I get up at 6:45 am. Sometimes I try and other times I'm to exhausted after a long day. My bf works 5 pm to 5am Monday through friday. So our sleep schedules are different. He can live off 3 hours of sleep and be fine. I cannot. I tell him we are 2 different people but he doesn't care he wants me to stay up with him. Just yesterday night I had a headache still not feeling well and I got tired around 9 and he was mad. What should I do? 😔
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Once you start catering to the getting no rest deal, it’ll be something else next. Manipulation is real and that’s what it is. I’ve dealt with that a lot longer than I should have but trust me…it only gets worse. Don’t bring your little angel up around that.
Vo
I moved in with someone 6 months after communication started and it was the WORST thing I had ever done in my life.
Hes mad because he is looking to receive from you....sex, company etc. It's not like youre intentionally ignoring him. If youre exhausted or not feeling well, that takes precedence over hanging out. If he cares about your well being more than receiving enjoyment from you, he should respect that. My husband has health issues and sometimes goes to bed very early night after night, it sucks cuz of course I want to hang out, but getting mad at him...no.A lot more goes into a relationship than liking each other. There needs to be things like lifestyle compatibility, expectations, problem solving skills etc. I think 3 months, and with a child involved, is very very fast....because you dont get a chance to really see how the person is when theyre ticked off, lifestyle and habit differences etc.
I may be the odd one out here but based only on this post it just seems like he wants to spend time with you. I wouldn’t be so quick to say he’s trying to manipulate you and all that. You said yourself y’all have different schedules so when do you make time to spend with each other? Losing a few hours of sleep on the weekends is worth it to me to get that quality alone time with my husband. We have three kids and work full time and are exhausted 24/7 but we make time for each other. Maybe you can find a way to compromise together. You don’t have to stay up late every weekend but a night here and there won’t kill you 🤷🏼♀️
Mo
I think the flag for me was the part about him being mad that she had a headache and wanted to go to bed early. Im not sure what she means by mad, but something like that shouldnt trigger anger. If he wants to spend time with her thats understandable, but getting mad isnt good.
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