To tell or wait to tell…..

My first pregnancy at 35 we told our family and close friends after hearing a heartbeat and we lost the baby shortly after. It was sad to have to go back and tell everyone we lost the baby. My second pregnancy at 36 we waited until I was in the second trimester and had gotten back the genetic testing. I was much more comfortable and confident at that point, but still scared. Everything ended up fine 😊 My third pregnancy at 38 we weren’t going to tell anyone until genetic testing came back around 13 weeks and it came back with a chromosomal abnormality and we terminated the pregnancy at 14 weeks. I was very glad we waited because I could tell only the people I wanted to tell, and I didn’t have a defend our decision over what was already an agonizing and very sad choice.

I am almost 38 preggo with #2. I suffered a miscarriage when I was 35 and told family that I was pregnant a week or two before the miscarriage. Half my family was supportive and the other half wasnt very kind. So when I got pregnant again I waited until 12 wks (before 12 weeks is the 25% miscarriage risk) AND I waited until I got the genetic tests back. I did the same with my current pregnancy. I only told people before 12 wks that I KNEW would support me if I suffered another loss. Mostly a couple close friends and not even family except my MIL. But that is me. I had a friend who didnt announce until almost 24 weeks because she has a sister with 7 losses. But I also know others who announced are 7wks and were a okay for the whole pregnancy. It is all up to you and your partner's comfort level. You both need to be comfortable with it and respect that comfort.

I told my family and close friends right away and then announced on social media at 12 weeks. Only because we had a previous miscarriage so I wanted to make sure everything looked good!

I would say it depends on your support system and how you deal with things. If something does go wrong would you want to keep it private and deal with it yourself? Would the people around you wrap you in their arms and give you love and support? My first pregnancy we told family almost immediately (within the week) and close friends shortly after. We lost that one but everyone wrapped us in love and support and that helped get me through it. The second pregnancy I was more hesitant but still told family and close friends right away. We just didn't share with people outside of that until I was further along.

I had a miscarriage and told no one but my partner and son during that time. This time around I waited until I was 13 weeks to tell my mom and siblings and close friends found out after my anatomy scan at 20 weeks.I’m currently 37w + 3d and I haven’t told anyone else. For me it’s a little intimate and I’d like to enjoy the journey because the beginning of the pregnancy I was overwhelmed and anxious almost everyday until 20+ weeks. You do what’s comfortable for you. 💞

Wait... its more safe

We waited until after 12 week NIPT genetic results . Don’t give in to tell early if you want to to wait. You can decide what’s right for you, what feels good

My first pregnancy I told immediate family as soon as I found out and then the world at 11 weeks as it was my birthday. I had a private scan to confirm all ok before I announced. I was 39.Second pregnancy I had told immediate family and some close friends but miscarried at just over 8 weeks. Current pregnancy, only immediate family know and I won’t be telling others (friends and wider family) until I’m into the second trimester, prob around 13/14 weeks. I don’t know if I will announce to the world, ie on social media as I did with my first pregnancy. I’ve not decided yet. The miscarriage has defo made me more caution as it was so hard telling friends I had miscarried.