Would you feel bad?

Question

So to start with me and my husband have good sex BUT he mostly does it like just goes for the SEX like he doesn’t really touch me or kiss me first and get me horny (I do get horny with him but he won’t do anything). Sometimes he’ll forget to kiss me or will do it right before cumming. He focuses on the SEX not on what I likeZ and YES I HAVE told him before many times what I like and he knows that. I will have an orgasm rarely when he actually tries and it happens before sex….
Because of that I SOMETIMES masturbate but to lesbian gifs or things like that, I don’t really watch poem anymore. I feel like shot after because I do like my husband and everything.

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So this really has to do with your marriage and what is normal for yall.
Second of you need him to be filling your needs with basic affection and explaining that doesn't work try showing him. Like kiss him put his hand where you need it. Take the reins. If that doesn't work then plainly stop fulfilling his needs because he's just being lazy then.
I heard a comedian talk about sex with his wife after being married for fifteen years. He says his sex life isn't dulled down at all it's just more efficient. I thought it was so funny and accurate. Marriage makes you comfortable and know what it is you like and your partner.
So if your husband knows what it is you need and it's simple as a kiss then he's just being selfish.

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You should never feel guilty about masturbating. I do it and I’m married and it’s not like a replacement for sex or anything. Since you have communicated to your husband what you like and he still not doing it, maybe consider directing him during and before sex. I was having a similar issue with my husband where I really felt like I wanted to be touched first. If I get like cuddled and massaged and kissed and have fingering and foreplay I have a way better experience during sex and I am much wetter and feel sexier and it makes for a way better experience for him as well. He wasn’t getting this and was trying to jump straight to intercourse so I started directing him basically saying in the moment honey kiss me here or suck me there or massage this or whatever and telling him while he was doing it how much it was turning me on. You can also put his hands places where you want them if he is just trying to jump to sex without the foreplay. You can tell him where you want to be kissed. I doubt he will say no if you actually communicate that in the moment. I think it’s important to like actually verbally communicate during sex if things would feel better a different way.

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No i wouldn't feel bad if your husband can't put your needs first and cater to you stop having sex with him

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