Sooo yeah.

Background (please read first before commenting):

She’s always been hurtful and demeaning if I didn’t agree with whatever she says. Name calling etc. While I was pregnant she did some extremely horrible and cruel things to my sibling and I, things that took a lot of my happiness away, especially being a first time mom (I was over the moon to be a mom). She “apologized” and said she was getting help so I tried to move past it and worked on us respecting each other, and that she needed to seriously respect me. After I gave birth my husband, baby and I quarantined for a few months, but asked that after that, anyone who wants to see our baby needs to be vaccinated and wear masks, wash hands etc. I know she’s anti vax, anti mask so I only asked that she wear a mask and she agreed. Next day she backtracked and made excuses, every excuse in the book, for why not to wear a mask and how stupid it was (also should note he was born preemie so we wanted to take extra precaution since anything could send him to the ER). Etc. So I stopped talking to her after she wanted his pic for a screensaver on her phone. He’s more than a screensaver and cute pictures, and that’s when I drew the line. Today, after many months, she texts me with this, acting like she has ZERO clue why I stopped communicating.

If you ask why I still tried, well, She’s my mom and we used to be extremely close, like best friends. Things changed a few years back when she started attacking my brother and I verbally. But I kept trying. I’m done now though.

Edit: nowhere on here did I say I asked her to get vaccinated, and as for others, I didn’t need to ask anyone to get vaccinated, everyone I know already is so some of you are focusing on the wrong things. 😂

Also, to the the recommendation in the comments of asking her to take a covid test before seeing baby: Man, I wish it were that easy. #1 that assumes she is willing (she fought the doctor tooth and nail to avoid taking a covid test before life saving-surgery a couple of months back, but ended up taking one after hours of arguing with doctors and nurses) and #2 I’m asking for a mask not just to avoid covid, but also other viruses, as stated in the screenshot of text messages.

I don’t post this as a hate towards my mother. I post this because I feel alone a lot regarding this situation and it seems others feel the same and are going through something similar, so I want them to know they aren’t alone. I love her very much and miss the way things used to be. However, I refuse to be constantly belittled and badgered for simply standing up for myself and my baby. Also I come from a medical background, so I know masks work and how viruses work, and how easily things can turn for the worse when babies get sick. Mask-wearing and their effectiveness is a non-negotiable for me. None of what I have said here has been of disrespect towards her. I respect her passion, in which I feel is being used in the wrong way and unfortunately her actions have shown disrespect towards me (in many other ways than just these texts) even though I have tried countless times to build a loving relationship based on respect. I wish she would use her energy towards positivity. Some of you don’t agree with my actions, sure I don’t do things perfectly, none us do. But I am doing what I see as the best way to protect my baby, the best way I can, not only from viruses but from toxic relationships too, because he will see that and I don’t want him to be around that. We are all simply doing what we see fit for our own children.