I’m leaving

Any supportive input would be appreciated.

Last night my fiancé of 6 years had told me to “shut the fuck up” multiple times because I kept asking him for help with our toddler who was up crying throughout the night. Our toddler has a cold and so do I. I’m currently pregnant so this is physically draining. My fiancé works a 9 to 5 job 40 minutes away from our home. He’s very exhausted when he gets back but helps with our child as soon as he comes back from work. I applaud him and appreciate him for everything and anything that he does he’s a great father. When our child gets out from school, I take over and do my motherly duties. I clean around the house I take care of a child it’s exhausting especially when you’re pregnant and I have a cold but you do what you Gotta do. I do this until my fiancé comes back from work. So we both play our role as parents.

Unfortunately we haven’t been getting much sleep lately which has caused a lot of tension between us. But fiancé has to wake up early to drive 40 minutes away for work so I try to take out as much as I can during the night but I believe that we both work as a team and we both should work together when it comes to our kid at the end of the day. When my son goes to school I don’t get much rest because I’m sick I try to rest as much as I can.

Anyways the night before he cursed me out he slammed the door very loud as he got up to take care of our son. He doesn’t want to take turns helping with her toddler. He thinks because I’m not working and I’m a stay at home mom there’s less risk by me staying up throughout the night and helping with her son. I can only physically do so much. That stigma is it what bothers me what bothers me is his disrespectful tantrums and gestures like this that I won’t tolerate. I understand his frustration and his exhaustion but I don’t believe I deserve to be lashed out on because he’s tired. I am exhausted but I’m not gonna sit there and curse him out because of it. I already had a serious conversation with him before about this. I told him I don’t want our children growing up in environment where the parents are fighting arguing in front of them. Where they have to hear door slam in the middle of the night, mom and dad cursing at one another, ect. That’s just not the type of environment I want our kids to grow up in. I also don’t believe that we should be treating each other that way. He completely threw that out the window multiple times now.

I did not initiate any disrespect towards him all I asked was that he help me with our child. Life is unfair if you got to get up early for work in the morning and you don’t get enough sleep that sucks. If I’m pregnant I have a cold but my toddler is waking up throughout the night I got to get up and help life is not fair it is what it is. I don’t understand what I did to be subjected to that type of abuse Just because he’s tired…..

We have a baby on the way it’s not gonna get any easier. I’d rather come to terms if the relationship is going to shit and leave them to subject myself and children to this.

My mom is on the way to pick me up I’m gonna stay with her for a bit with our son at least I’ll get some help with her in a peaceful environment for the time being. Like I said I have a cold so I feel very vulnerable having any type of help without fighting would be great. We haven’t really talked my fiancé and I since the whole incident last night. I don’t expect an apology from him anytime soon until he’s fully rested and feels good about himself and even then I’m gonna tell him that I need to be respected even when you feel at your lowest. I just don’t feel a connection between us much anymore and it’s such a shame that it’s come to this but I have to start making decisions on where I go from here