Conflicted

I need some help Especially if you have in laws and kids..

So me and my in laws never have really gotten along or known each other.. and I fell unexpectedly pregnant with my daughter and when they first found out his mother said I should get a abortion and I should’ve known how to take bc and or precautions to not get pregnant and then his dad said I was making it up and trying to trap him..

The more my pregnancy went along they semi got more comfortable with the fact I was having a kid; and she would offer to buy things for my daughter but would get mad if my parents got it first or something similar.. and his dad would constantly tell me that I’m not big enough and should eat more..

Fast forward to now my daughter is one we just moved back home for support cause my husbands deployed and when we were here during Christmas last year we stayed at their house with my husband and they were okay but she kept tying to parent my daughter and tell her it was okay after I told her no..

but my husband is gonna be gone for a very long time we have no clue when he’s back and I don’t wanna keep her from her grandparents but yet I don’t need them to bash me or my daughter or tell her to not listen to me. I’ve tried talking to them about it but they blow it off and don’t really listen to me.

But how would y’all handle this?? Should I even let them see her??