Is this normal ?

So our everyday life looks like this, im a stay at home parent of 3 kiddos and he works night shifts 3 nights a week. I take all the kids. I get them up at 7 and have to be out the door by 7:30 fo get them to school and daycare for breakfast.

So it’s hard to wake up and then immediately rush and get everyone ready kids hate waking up in the mornings deff not morning people lol. Come home, I personally nap while they are at school as this is my only rest time for myself. My partner will come home, keep me up talking, or doing this and that. I’ve told him many times that I know he’s been up all night and it’s talkative but I am tired. Our 2 year old still wakes up a bunch. I’m tired. He doesn’t respect that and at this point I’ve let it go. If he doesn’t have to work that night I will just let him sleep till whenever he wakes up, like even if it’s 6pm.. 7pm…. If he is tired he needs more rest from working I’m all for that. All I ask is the days he doesn’t work to please take our toddler to daycare to help me out. Being up with our toddler, dealing with the kids all day. Taking them picking them up, grocery shopping cleaning like I do it all. And ALLLL I ask is to help take out toddler. Which takes what 30 mins total to get him ready and take him. The reason I don’t ask for more is bc I’m so used to our routine with the kids and I it’s easier for me to just do it. But I am tired and when he’s not working I expect some help, he stays up on his nights off playing games that the morning rolls around he’s tired and doesn’t wanna get up. He does, but he takes it out on me in aggressive ways bc he is tired. Normally I brush it off probably bad of me bc I am so used to it but this morning it struck me wrong bc I tossed and turned all night, I just had trouble sleeping. I got up at 7 got our older children dressed and ready to go and took them to school. Came home to wake him up at 7:30 and he got super mad at me. He said “ why can’t you just take him!!!” “ I have a dentist appt at 10am and then have to get my COVID shot for work right after and I’m gonna be busy today while your home napping” so for one that just PISSED me off bc it’s his day off and I deserve a break and it’s not my fault he stayed up till 2 playing games. Your a grown man, get your priorities straight. Then he went on to take it out on me saying I should go to the store and get sleeping pills to help me sleep since I struggled falling asleep last night. Like flipping it on me angry bc I didn’t take our toddler like he said last night he would last night. He went in the bathroom to brush his teeth and he’s throwing everything around real aggressive and just being so rude about it slamming cabinets etc. I’m so used to doing everything that I feel like maybe I am lowering myself on getting what I deserve bc I am too tired to argue and sometimes it’s easier for me to just do it as normal…

Is this normal like when someone is tired is it normal to react and treat someone like this? He’ll usually come back and be in a fine mood once he wakes and gets around but I don’t feel like it’s fair to me to treat me like that and make me feel bad. It also makes me feel unappreciated in a way bc I deserve help when he’s home and I don’t expect barely anything out of him.

I’ve talked to him about this and communicated it before and he’ll apologize then do it again another morning.