I want nothing to do with my husband

I’m 39 weeks, and my midwife is suggesting we have more sex to help my cervix since I haven’t dilated at all. I’m perfectly fine with waiting and being induced, as I want nothing to do with sex or my husband right now.

We both work full time, I’m still working 45 hours a week from home. And nothing about our dynamic has changed. I still do everything around the house and cook dinner and clean and wake up at 4am.

He’s great emotionally and he’s always here, except he just doesn’t do anything. Maybe once a week he will do the dishes, or sometimes on the weekend he will want steak for dinner and cook steaks. But the rest of the time everything is on me. Not to mention I haven’t gotten off from sex with him since December. It’s like ever since I got pregnant my needs don’t matter.

He’s now talking about whats going to happen after my maternity leave, and he keeps hinting that we can’t afford daycare as it would take my whole check, yet won’t let me quit my job or go part time. I work from home, I could manage taking care of the baby if I was part time. But I cannot do it full time. Along with everything else around the house. And I’m just frustrated. Like he really thinks I can do everything, and that somehow I would still have the energy/want to have unsatisfactory sex with him to induce labor.

We have talked about responsibilities but it always ends up back on me. I ask him to do things and all he does is take out the trash then go work on his car. If I don’t do the laundry it won’t get done, if I don’t cook dinner it won’t get done, if I don’t clean up everything and meal plan and buy groceries it just never gets done. I’ve tried going a week before only doing it for myself and he just still didn’t do it, or he got pissy and accused me of being lazy. I told him if he wants a traditional household then let me quit my job and he says no.