Narcissistic or just being a “ Guy “ 😒

So long story short been with my bf for 7yrs every couple of years or so I’d find him talking to other females some messages may have indicated that they have met in person me being so blindly in love i let it go forgave him and even listened when he would say it’s because he wasn’t getting something from me & it’s never been about the physical ( saying he has never slept with them ) . Recently caught him doing it again but he admitted to keeping it in his phone for me to find ( explicit pictures videos or other females ) because he wants me to see that I can loose him literally turned the whole situation around on me . Please tell me I have NOT been with a narcissist this entire time 🤦🏽‍♀️