Ugh I deeply offended my husband

Ok so I need to vent!! And maybe get some advice. So last night my husband and I went to dinner and had some drinks. Which is a rarity for us because we always have my two toddlers with us. They were at their grandparents house. The night was going really great, and then on the way home we got into an argument. It was really weird it started off him asking me to do things (housework related) a lot of things… which he does that very frequently. And I already do about 80% of the childcare and home care so when he adds additional things onto my already long list of things to do I feel very anxious and frustrated.

Somehow by the time we got home the conversation turned into a sexual argument. I have been having trouble with sex drive and I’m not very sexually active in our relationship. Which I realize is a big issue, and I am doing things to try to help the issue. During the conversation my husband said several “offensive“ things to me about my body including hygiene, and being attractive or not attractive actually, not being sexually active, (even though he got a BJ a few days ago) and agreeing that some of our sex issues are due to me being “dry” sometimes (after having 2 kids and being over 30). …

So I did end up pointing out our #2 bIGGEST sex problem. Which is, that my husbands penis only ever gets about 60% hard. He has even mentioned before that his penis “won’t get hard” or “stay hard” during sex. I’m always super anxious during sex because it’s so soft, it’s hard to “get it in the vagina” and even know if it’s in there?? he then tried to blame my “big saggy legs”’as getting in the way 🥴 (I weigh 175 so not a giant)….to me it is a real problem that needs fixing just like my low sex drive.

He told me I had really offended him, and he does not want to even think about sex with me anytime in the near future. The remainder of the night was a little awkward but went OK….And now today he has turned off his location sharing on his phone, and has not texted me at all since I’ve been at work but a couple one-word replies to my texts. I really don’t feel like he has the right to be super offended especially since he said probably 10 very offensive things about myself and the one thing I commented about his body is not even his fault. So now I’m a little irritated that he’s so pissed. Thoughts?