My friend can’t keep her house clean

My friend is having a hard time keeping up with house work. I know most women on this app are mothers so maybe hoping people can give advice who actually have kids (I don’t) so I can pass it along to her because she’s really struggling.

******please do not take this as me bashing her, I think her house is fine and she works full time, has three kids, ages 1.2,4. She is like superwoman, if anything, I tell her she should spend her down time drinking wine in a bubble bath not worrying about cleaning lol************

So yeah, she works, makes dinner, she does have a husband but I don’t think he helps much. She is always stressed out saying her house is a mess,

She’s embarrassed to have people over, and she can’t keep up with it. Her free time she spends cleaning but she doesn’t have much free time, and then the cleaning and does do gets undone in minutes. I have offered to help, but she says she really needs to do a deep cleaning and organize and throw shit out just to get a handle on the mess. I have offered to watch her kids, but she says they are a handful and she feels bad. She says she will spend an entire weekend cleaning, but then can’t keep up with the little things, then the little things turn into big messes, and she can’t keep up.

How do you guys with kids and full time jobs keep up with the house work??? (Y’all are the real MVPS) Are there any cleaning schedules you guys have? Is there some advice I can give her, like cleaning one room a day, or some kind of quick cleaning routine so she only spends a few mins a day cleaning?

Should I just show up at her house and tell her that I am here to do whatever she needs, whether it be watch the kids, or help her with whatever, or is that intrusive?