Do any of you guys experience this? Wondering if I should get checked out…

Hello! So I’m still a virgin at 21 years old for my own personal reasons, some of them being due to sexual trauma in the past, and since I don’t really have anyone to ask I wanted to see if anyone else experienced any of this?

Occasionally, when I get aroused it feels like my vaginal muscles get really tight and it hurts a bit. It goes away after about 10 minutes, depends. Inserting a finger during this doesn’t hurt.

I can’t put put more than 2 inches of my dildo in. It hurts, almost like there’s a pressure and burning sensation, and if I try to push through it I get a sharp pain and have to stop. I’ve only been able to fit a toy just slightly bigger and longer than my finger. It’s not a huge dildo, only 6 inches in usable length and I believe 1.10 in width at the head… does this sound normal? I feel a bit broken. I’ve tried using tons of lube, both silicone and water based and it still won’t go in and Im not really making any progress after trying maybe 5 times now. And I know it’s definitely NOT from not being aroused enough.

Edit: I’m definitely relaxed. I make sure to orgasm first too and make sure to relax my muscles… though sometimes it’s like they tighten and I don’t even realize it and have to relax them again. And even when they’re relaxed it won’t go in.