What do I do when my husband doesn’t even know?

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Hey all! 
Back story: my husband and I are only 23 years old. We got married at age 21. Since he was 18 years old, he worked at a concrete company. At age 23 (5 years later) he felt he wasn’t be treated fairly and he hated working outside. He found himself another job doing the same work but better management. Well he already wants to quit this job too. He said he hates working in the heat and killing himself every day. I do work full time making $16/hour and being home on average $500/week. We currently live at my grandmas and have no children or real financial responsibility. Our goal was to save Atleast 10 grand and start looking for a house next year. I also go to school full time getting my masters degree in social work. 
He has no clue what he wants to do. I mean not one. He brings up DoorDash, dog walking, starting his own business, working at a weed dispensary (he has a passion for growing weed) but nothing seems like a winner. 
Dispensaries are hiring at $11/hour which would be a huge change cause he’s been making $1,000/week working at the concrete company. Since he was 18. I also notice most dispensaries hire attractive females to be the face of the company. There are hardly any guys and I don’t feel comfortable with him working there. 
He talks about going to school but doesn’t know what for. Then he says he’ll work part time at Home Depot and do door dash at night. There is just no structure or base to this. I feel like we’re in highschool all over again.
**** update on the dispensary job. We went to two different dispensaries for fun and both were FILLED with all females and one gay guy. They actually asked me if I wanted a job there which was funny cause we were going there to inquire for my husband. I talked to a couple of the girls and they said that they were told having attractive females gets them more sales. So they always try to have more females than males. Especially cause their clientele is mostly males believe it or not and they buy more when a female suggests something else. I told my husband I don’t know how I would feel about him working with weed, with a bunch of females 8 hours + a day, and smoking with them etc. just doesn’t seem like a great environment for a married man.

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He’s been working a tough job for 5 years of his young life, he’s going through a phase where he just doesn’t know what he wants to do . 
For me, my husbands happiness is much more important than any amount of money. 
Also, it’s very inappropriate for you to tell your husband you aren’t comfortable with him working around pretty females. If you trust him, what’s the problem? 
I’d rather my husband go through this phase while he’s young instead of when he’s 30 with kids . 
Let him take the year to figure out what he wants to do, as long as the bills are paid and moneys being saved who cares?

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It's confusing to me that he's been making $1000 a week for the past 5 years with no real financial obligations and doesn't already have at least $10,000 saved. I don't mean to sound presumptuous, but does he already spend a lot of money on marijuana? Not just smoking but hydroponics for growing, etc.?
Depending on your answer, that and the lower income would worry me more than the women would--people I know who work at dispensaries tend to spend a lot of their money there as well. Do you feel like he is unconsciously taking advantage of your and your grandmother's generosity?
Definitely not saying he's a bad person or anything. Just that it seems like he's not being very realistic financially. There are certainly opportunities for growth in that field, but does he have the ambition and follow-through to pursue them? Or does he even want to? He may just want to dispense indefinitely. 
Y'all should chat more seriously about these things. There's nothing inherently wrong with his employment moves or your apprehension--but it may reveal some incompatibilities depending on the future you both envision for yourselves.
This is long, so I'm gonna stop, lol. Either way, I hope that he lands on something that will make both of you happy in the long run!

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You guys are young, so getting married at that age means you'll possibly have to go through that phase together. It's normal to not really know what you want. I'm 27 and still don't know. I say you help him find what he is passionate about and help him turn it into a job, then maybe a career if he likes it.  Be supportive. 
If it's a weed dispensary, the whole male/female thing isn't consistent. Any time I've gone in one, males were the ones working. But even then, you should trust him enough to allow him to work with women. Just set boundaries that are fair and tell him how he could make you feel secure. But only get to that problem if it happens.

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I think it’s completely normal to not know what he wants to do people go through many jobs before they find the right fit for them. I don’t think it’s fair to tell him he can’t work at a dispensary because attractive woman also work there.

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Try working at a place that cultivates and creates the weed. My friend works as quality assurance at Cresco Labs. A big weed lab in the Midwest.

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Being miserable at your job is no fun. Money isn’t everything but you need money to live and making 11.00 an hr won’t cut it. I didn’t know what j wanted to do with I was your age either. Just support him I would say. Just don’t let him quit his current job without having another one lined up.

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There will be women in any industry he works in, so you’ll have to get over that. It’s a big change but adaptable. Do you have an income? Or is it just his? No judgment either way, it just changes how easy it is to live on 11$ an hour

What do I do when my husband doesn’t even know?

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