Life doesn’t just stop

I posted the other day about how my MIL raised my husband with the mindset that’s on the weekends he is to just rest and do nothing. She’s always saying “he needs to rest or he’ll get sick”. So he has the mentality that if he doesn’t just do a absolutely nothing than when he gets tired he’s automatically sick. This weekend is a holiday weekend.

Friday my parents surprised us and asked to take my daughter for the afternoon/early evening. So we took the opportunity and went out to dinner.

Yesterday my husband slept in till almost 11. My daughter and I were up at 7:30. A friend (who is visiting with her family from out of state) invited us to a July 4th cookout and we thought we couldn’t go but then we ended up being able to. It turned out being an hour away so we went and stayed for a couple hours then came home. So we were out a total of 4 hours.

Today we’re supposed to go to another cookout (we thought it was yesterday but the invite was wrong so that why we went to the other cookout). This one is 10 minutes away.

My husband woke up after 9 this morning. He’s been sitting on the couch looking mopy (spelling?). So I asked him what’s wrong and he says he doesn’t feel well and needs to go back to sleep. So since we went out yesterday and he wasn’t able to do nothing he’s getting sick. This happens every time. I don’t know what to do. We don’t get to do fun things with my daughter because he gets run down or sick if he has to.

But it’s a fun weekend and everyone wants to do stuff and I want to do stuff with our daughter. I don’t get to do nothing. Every day I write down a to do list of what needs done for life to go on and I don’t get to say “I’m just not doing it”. I’m bummed because it looks like it’s just going to be me and my daughter making memories this weekend.

My out of town friend also invited us to go to the zoo tomorrow and my husband was already making the excuse of it being a holiday and busy. So I know he’s going to start pushing the idea of not going to that so he can relax tomorrow.

I just don’t understand.