Night time routines

My 18th month old has been having some sleep regression here recently. Some night he just fusses a little and goes right to sleep some nights he just cry’s and cry’s. I had to drive around tonight to get him to bed and here I am 1AM awake because he’s screaming again. Gave him some Motrin incase his teeth hurt, gave him some more milk which he turned down…

I’ve always been the type when he wakes up in middle of night I like to hold him so he knows I’m there and his dad says I need to stop babying him..

Idk what I’m doing wrong.. looking for some bed time routines so he knows it’s time to wind down and go to bed.