How do you know you’re ready to date?

Question

Hi ladies! I hope y’all are doing well. How do y’all know when ur ready to date? Sometimes I feel like I’ll never be ready. I want to be completely healed before I start dating intentionally. But I don’t know how long it’ll take for me to heal either.

Answer

I think you know you’re ready when you don’t really care to date. When you’re content with just being in love with yourself, growing into who you’re becoming and falling more in love with God. That’s when I personally believe you’re in a place of maturity and it wouldn’t be a bad idea to date.

Answer

I was a serial dater. I had to always be in a relationship, for several years. I finally hit rock bottom, mentally, physically, spiritually at one point. I was never happy with the sins I was committing. I found Jesus. There was never a time in my life that I don’t remember believing in God. I also don’t remember any family members ever telling me about God. Somehow I just knew of him at some point and believed, but I never “got” the following part. When I gave up my sins, repented and fully focused my time on God, I forgot about relationships, sex and all of my favorite sins. I was completely sober, abstinent for 3 years before I met my husband. 
And when I met him, I ignored him at first. For several months I ignored his presence at church. One day, out of nowhere, I told my friend “hey, he’s kind of cute, huh?”. Soon after that, I met his parents at church and his dad immediately tried to match make with the two of us by somehow always getting us around each other or talking about his son (which he did eventually succeed at). After I first noticed him, I didn’t necessarily pursue him, but at some point I would start making little excuses to have a small, meaningless conversation with him. Some days I would tell myself “I’m not going to talk to him after church!” (Dating/Men had completely left my mind at this point. It was all about JESUS!), but then I would walk out the church doors and go talk to him still somehow. I was fighting it. I got to a point where I was literally dreaming of marrying him and we weren’t even dating yet. My little daughter was drawing pictures of us getting married and we weren’t even dating yet! It was a little freaky now that I think about it. The Lord put this man in my life. I didn’t go looking, for the first time in my life. Wait on the Lord, get to know the Lord, trust in the Lord. It will happen. Do what is right and prepare yourself for your future husband.

How do you know you’re ready to date?

Let's Glow!

The Top Baby Tracker App: Embrace New Beginnings with Tender Care

The Top Fertility Tracker App: Your Path to Achieving Pregnancy

The Top Pregnancy App: Nurturing Your Journey to Motherhood

The Top Period Tracker for Empowering Your Menstrual Health Journey