Am i wrong for being upset?

Question

So my boyfriend gets high basically everyday (Weed). Smokes with friends they come over to our home and smoke on our balcony. I HATE the smell . And ive told him numerous of times that First i hates when he gets high everyday because he’s not very attentive and we cant talk about anything serious because he laughs. Second it STINKS and he doesnt attempt to brush his teeth or take a shower after. He doesnt listen or even have some consideration. I have told him NOT to smoke in our laundry closet anymore because we wash our clothes there ( he use to hot box in there) but yesterday he completely disregarding what i said and him and his friends smoked in there anyway , and when i confronted him about it of course he was high and shrugged it off like its no big deal. We have been together for 6 years and weed itself is not a bad thing for me ( i use to smoke myself) but being high everyday is unattractive to me. Im also 20 weeks pregnant and its making me furious because I’m feeling so disrespected. Is this just a hormone thing and i should just back off ? Or do i have a right to be upset ? 
Btw im 23 he’s 26

Answer

Before pregnancy & EBF right now I smoked weed heavily. I would not be okay smoking inside my house at all. I like to get high but hate the smell of burnt weed after. Plus when you have the baby he cannot be smoking in the laundry room period. My partner still smokes n he changes his shirt, was his hands and brushes his teeth after smoking when coming close to our 3 month old. Not wrong at all hun he needs to get it together asap!! Before baby!

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you’re 1000% allowed to be upset. before pregnancy i was a heavy smoker, and my man still is. i quit the second i found out i was pregnant though. he only smokes outside, and not anywhere near the baby. we stopped smoking in the bathroom, and cars. anytime he smokes he either showers or at the very least changes his shirt and washes his hands and brushes his teeth. 2nd and 3rd hand smoke can be detrimental to a babies health. he needs to chill

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I don't think you are wrong for being upset. But I have a different perspective. When my hubby and I met we both smoked ciggs (yes I know its not the same). After a year together I quit. It's been 4 years and he still hasn't. I hate the smell. I hated it when I smoked but I didn't mind it back then. But it's not fair that I changed and he didn't. So while I don't smoke he still does. I understand his need to smoke a cigg while driving so I deal while we are driving but window fully down and he holds it fully out the window. Haha. So maybe you can get creative and find a way to give him a space to smoke in. It should be outside though. We are staying with my dad in his apartment because he had a stroke so he finally doesn't smoke inside! It's amazing. But in our house I felt bad because again, I changed not him. So I do understand your upset. Really I do. And it's completely acceptable that you hate the smell and want him to use restraint. My husband is also an alcoholic so we wrote down ground rules and both signed it. When he starts to kinda of make bad decisions I show it to him. Good luck!

Am i wrong for being upset?

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